Families would be so much less dysfunctional if everyone could just be honest and say how they really feel and be heard without defenses going up and blame being thrown around like a hot potato. Hearing the truth sometimes hurts, but if your family can't tell you the truth; who can? Part of growing up is admitting when you're wrong, learning how to compromise and sometimes just agree to disagree. If you're one of those people who thinks they're never wrong, you must live in a very lonely world.
I've been dealing with some family drama for going on 6 weeks. I've tried to stay out of it, but still let my feelings about it be known. For years, I felt like I was the only person that would stand up to this particular family member and now that someone else has, I'm backing them up from a distance....if that makes sense. But now I feel like "no good deed goes unpunished".
So here are some random things that I'd really like to say to random family members....
1. No matter how old we are, our parents are still our parents and deserve to be respected and appreciated.
2. I'm a mom too...and really Mother's Day is just another day to me.
3. Your birthday is not a national holiday.
4. Don't talk on your phone at the dinner table. Excuse yourself or offer to return the call later.
5. Just because someone offers, doesn't mean you should necessarily accept.
6. Usually, if you ignore something it usually doesn't go away....it just gets bigger and bigger.
7. NOBODY is perfect!!
8. Jealousy only makes bad situations worse.
9. Sometimes you have to do things you don't want to, because they're the right thing to do.
This post is probably gonna hurt some feelings, but it was the only way I felt I could vent the things that were stewing inside me. I love my family...my parents, my siblings, my kids and my extended family. Most everything above has been said to the face of the person it's intended, but not necessarily heard or accepted. Don't take your family for granted. You never know what tomorrow holds.
Whew...now that I got all of that off my chest, I feel soooooo much better.
My Mother's Day came early with me learning that I had indeed won the very coveted MOTY award. I would like to thank my dear friend, Skeeter for nominating me, voting for me and taking the time out of his busy life to reward me so generously for being 2012's Mother Of The Year. My trophy will be displayed proudly FOREVER!!! <---Mainly to remind my kids of just how lucky they are to have me for their mom...and not one of my slacker opponents that failed to BRING IT to the competition this year. Better luck to you all next go round.
I guess those WINNING genes were passed down to Beelay, as her soccer team went on to WIN their championship game. I'm one proud mama. She is tied for the most goals scored this season. All joking aside, her whole team and coaches deserve a HUGE round of applause. The incredible teamwork and stellar sportsmanship they showed this season was a pleasure to watch and made for a very intense season. Way to go ROCKETS!!!
Now for my Mother's Day. In years past, what I've really wanted for Mother's Day was a day WITHOUT my kids. You can deny it, but I'd be willing to bet money you've had the same thoughts. I'm a single mom, so it's not like their dad has been around to help the girls make my day special. To me it seemed logical to really want a QUIET day by the pool with a frosty beverage and NO fighting children. Well this year they made me proud. After the night at the circus I had, what I intended to do when I got home was go back to bed. What I got was a day at "Spa de la Morrow". They had draped white Christmas lights around my bedroom, lit candles and turned on some ambient music on their iTouch.
They gave me a back massage. They applied a mask to my face, painted my nails, rubbed my feet, etc. They got along for the most part all day long. When things started to get sketchy, I'd just say "Happy Mother's Day" and it would click that I was giving them a HINT that it was my day, not theirs. It was lovely actually. Plus my dad helped them out on the gift end. My hairdryer took a crap last week and I'd been using his all week. So this was the PERFECT gift!!
Bless my sister's heart. She is days away from delivering her first baby and she managed to put together a wonderful Mother's Day meal for all of us. It was delish!! And then while sitting at the table (luckily my children were sitting at the coffee table) my mom handed me my card and and Mother's Day gift. I should've asked her what my budget was...but I'm pretty sure just the catalog was my gift. Now you all know where I get my humor from.
I hope that all of my mom friends and followers had a wonderful day and that they were cherished by their children. Remind them that it's because of them that you pee a little every time you sneeze. It's because of you that they are still living and breathing. Tell your mom that you love her often...not just on Mother's Day!!!
Families would be so much less dysfunctional if everyone could just be honest and say how they really feel and be heard without defenses going up and blame being thrown around like a hot potato. Hearing the truth sometimes hurts, but if your family can't tell you the truth; who can? Part of growing up is admitting when you're wrong, learning how to compromise and sometimes just agree to disagree. If you're one of those people who thinks they're never wrong, you must live in a very lonely world.
I've been dealing with some family drama for going on 6 weeks. I've tried to stay out of it, but still let my feelings about it be known. For years, I felt like I was the only person that would stand up to this particular family member and now that someone else has, I'm backing them up from a distance....if that makes sense. But now I feel like "no good deed goes unpunished". 
